Let’s start with a quick explanation of what exactly your pelvic floor muscles do. The main reasons for these muscles are that they control bladder and bowel control and they support the fetus during pregnancy. But what some people are not aware of is that strong pelvic floor muscles increase the intensity of your pleasure during intercourse, as well as giving you a better chance of having an orgasm (especially if you typically find it difficult to reach orgasm from penetration alone).
If you want better sex (and who doesn’t?) you should be strengthening your pelvic floor muscles. A great way to build these muscles is doing an exercise known as Kegels. So how do you do it? Basically, doing a Kegel involves pretending you have to urinate and then holding it in. The best way to understand how these work is to actually try it out next time you have to use the ladies room. You’ll start to go and then you’ll stop. When you do this, you can feel which muscles are tightening. These muscles SHOULD be your bladder, vaginal muscles and anus. The muscles that should remain relaxed are your thighs, butt and abdomen. If you’re not sure you’re doing it right, simply insert a finger in your vagina. Tighten the muscles as if you are holding in your urine and then relax them. This way, you’ll get a (literal) feel of what you should be doing.
An important thing to note is that you don’t want to actually do these exercises while you are urinating as it can cause you problems down the road. We only recommend doing Kegels while urinating until you understand the muscles you’re supposed to be using.
There are some fun sex toys to use during your Kegel exercises, including Kegal Balls and Vibrators can be great for pleasure and a pelvic floor workout all at the same time! These vibrators react to your body and increase in intensity the harder they are squeezed. The tighter your muscles, the better it feels! Often these toys will be heavier than a typical vibrator which also helps build those muscles, similar to lifting weights.